“To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering.”
I found this version of Already Gone on YouTube tonight and it made me think about letting go. The song is so beautiful and makes my heart ache a little because I have had to learn to let go a lot in the past few years; whether that was parting ways with one of my best friends, the end of relationships, or changing my plan for my education and future career path. The truth of life is that sometimes we need to love someone else enough to let them go but more often we need to love ourselves enough to let go. At times we just need to let go of the need to control different aspects of our lives. Other times it’s the meticulously planned road map we once had for our lives. And yet other times we find ourselves needing to let go of pain and bitterness. The bottom line is that sometimes in life, we need to let go of things in order to reach our full potential.
There are going to be things that happen to each and every one of us that don’t seem fair. There will be times when we can’t help but fall to our knees are cry to the Heavens, “Why me!?” In those moments of weakness when we feel as though we cannot move on, when the weight of a fallen world seems to be on our shoulders… We must let go. We must let go and we must let God in, because in reality… Why not you? Our Heavenly Father knows what is best for each and every single one of His children and as we have the faith to let go and put our lives in His hands, we will find peace knowing we are on the right path. This does not mean that you won’t find yourself lost sometimes. What it does mean is that no matter what happens in your life, good OR bad, you are going to be alright.
In order for us to grow and to become all that we were meant to be, pain and trials are necessary. Pain is an interesting thing because it is something we fear so much, but yet it is an essential part of growing and being alive. Is there a purpose for pain and what does it tell us? If you think about it, pain has the ability to instill in us a feeling of hope. When we are enduring one of life’s trials and are able to see it as temporary, we develop a sense of hope for a brighter future. The pain we encounter in this life serves as a reminder that we are broken. We are imperfect and sometimes we need to endure some pain to realize that. Pain can also be a great motivator as we decide to be fighters instead of victims. Pain can be something that helps us to progress, but that is only if we choose to let it. It is up to us how we view each situation we find ourselves in.
In Steven C. Hayes and Spencer Smith’s book Get out of Your Mind and Into Your Life, they say,
“People suffer. It’s not just that they have pain – suffering is much more than that. Human beings struggle with the forms of psychological pain they have: the difficult emotions and thoughts, other unpleasant memories, and their unwanted urges and sensations. They think about them, worry about them, resent them, anticipate and dread them.
At the same time, human beings demonstrate enormous courage, deep compassion, and the remarkable ability to move ahead even with the most difficult personal histories. Knowing they can be hurt, humans still love others. Knowing they will die, human still care about the future. Facing the draw of meaninglessness, humans still embrace ideals. At times, humans are fully alive, present, and committed.”
So what do we need to change in order to be “fully alive, present, and committed?” So often we sit as passive observers, rather than active possessors of our own lives. Making any change in your life requires action, especially when we are deciding to let go of something or someone and move on.
I really believe that the only way we can find that hope and healing through all the pains and suffering of this world is through our Heavenly Father and his Son Jesus Christ. There will be times in life when the pain and the burdens are so overwhelming that we cannot carry them any longer. In those moments, we need, more than anything, to drop the burden, the pain, the heartache, the hurt, the unfairness, everything, at our Savior’s feet. We have to let it go. As we do this, the pain will be replaced with a peace that only our loving Savior can bring.
There is a poem written by Rev. Safire Rose titled “She Let Go,” that I found a few months ago.
She Let Go
“She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.
She let go of the fear. She let go of the judgments. She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head. She let go of the committee of indecision within her. She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.
She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go. She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go. She let go of all of the memories that held her back. She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward. She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.
She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.
She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.
No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.
There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.
In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.”
I love this poem because it portrays letting go as something that is beautiful, and it really is. When you choose to let go of something in your life, it needs to be a personal decision; it needs to be a matter of your soul. You need to want to move on in life more than you want to hold on to the past. For some people this is easier than for others, but it is still a struggle for most of us. Letting go and being humble enough to turn your life over to God really is one of the only ways we can find true happiness in the middle of the hardest trials of this life. It takes an immense amount of faith and trust to step into the unknown. These blind steps of faith are beyond difficult, but they have the potential to be some of the most rewarding. That is one of the reasons we are here on earth. We need to live, to learn, and to grow and by letting go, we are enabling ourselves to do just that.
May we all have the courage to take the necessary steps to let go of the things that inhibit our progression in this life. May we feel the sweet peace and freedom that comes as the heavy weight of pain, weakness, trial, whatever it may be that is holding us back is lifted from our shoulders. I know that by letting go of the things that hold us back, we will find new life and happiness surpassing anything we could have ever before imagined. We must learn to let go and let God.